Did you know that even high-performance coaches like me lose our momentum sometimes? That even with all the knowledge and tricks up our sleeves, our motivation can stall? I’m happy to say that I’m not currently feeling that way (thank goodness!), but last week I got a good reminder about how motivation works hand in hand with mindset.
I attended a seminar called The Art of Success, and I took so many notes my hand was cramped afterward. My biggest takeaway that I want to share with you now is that we all have within us an amazing tool to help us reach our goals - if we remember to take care of it.
The Care and Feeding of Motivation (and Mindset)
Have you ever said that you’ll “get started as soon as I find the motivation”? Looking back, did that motivation just show up and encourage you to work on that goal? Probably not!
Our motivation comes from a healthy mindset, and both are what drive you to succeed. Unfortunately, we can’t just turn “on” our motivation when we want to. Very much like exercising our bodies, we need to take care of our mindset so that it can be strong when our motivation wanes.
We're a couple of months past the new year, but as far as I'm concerned, it's always the season for setting goals … and today I’ve got something that will help you to make them a reality, even if you're feeling like you don't have as much momentum as you'd hoped!
It’s a checklist to stay on-track, no matter what goals you’re working toward.
Let's jump in!
10 Steps to Conquering Your Goals
1. FOCUS & DECIDE
Instead of choosing several goals to work on all at the same time, harness all that energy and focus it toward just 1-2 main goals.
2. Pick the goal with your BIGGEST WHY.
This is the goal that you emotionally connect with and have a STRONG REASON for choosing. (example: “I want to have the energy to play with my kids or grandkids” - that’s a pretty big reason)
It’s your “WHY” that keeps you going, so it has to be a good one.
I’m going to share something people don’t talk a lot about when it comes to a “balanced life” and reaching for your goals.
It’s almost impossible to have both at the same time.
When you’re in the process of making changes in your life, no matter what they are, it’s absolutely NORMAL for your life to get a little out of balance. At least for a short while.
I’m talking about times when …
It’s the week of Thanksgiving in the United States and even though it looks much different than usual, things can still get a little hectic and crazy.
Even a small celebration with your household can involve extra planning and shopping.
The number of things you need to get done in a day (let alone a holiday week!) are INCREDIBLE.
It’s easy to feel drained, rushed, and pressured, and feel like you need to focus your attention on all the things you still HAVE to do (lack of something).
The LAST thing you want to take the time to do is slow down and practice a little gratitude. But guess what
Gratitude is one of the surest ways to protect yourself from getting pulled into the negative, stress-filled, and energy-draining hamster wheel.
I read this statistic on Jack Canfield’s blog that blew me away:
“Researchers estimate that we think about 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day – and that about 80% of those thoughts are negative.”
WHAT! That’s a mindblowing amount of negative self-talk.
If you’re going to live the life you are MEANT to live and that you DESERVE, it can’t be dragged down by all of that negativity and doubt.
Did you know that your inner dialogue (aka the “voice in your head”) is one of the biggest influencers on your confidence and self-esteem?
If your self-talk is positive and empowering – fantastic! That didn’t happen by accident. You developed a HABIT of speaking to yourself that way, and your life likely reflects that positivity.
But if your self-talk tends to be on the negative side (which is the case for a LOT of people), I’ve got some coaching tips that can help you turn it around.
If you're reading and or watching this when I first put it out, we're more than six months into a worldwide pandemic. We're sick of hearing about uncertainties, unprecedented times, and even our new normal.
Depending on where you live, you may not be "going to" work, depending on whether you're considered an essential worker, still have a job, or already work at home like me. Chances are you've been impacted in some way by the pandemic or the myriad of other crisis going on right now.
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I’m going to share some of my journey today ... but it’s a story I am 99.9% sure you can relate to, at least a little!
At the beginning of the year, I was working on some major goals I set for myself.
I had mapped out a clear, step-by-step plan for myself to make it happen. And then I put that plan into action!
It wasn’t long before I started making some pretty big progress. I was really proud of what I did in such a short time ….
But then this summer most of my progress came to a screeching halt.
If you’ve ever studied “behavior change”, one of the first things you learned about is the “transtheoretical model of change.” It sounds complicated but it’s not!
It was developed back in the 1970’s after researchers studied smokers who were trying to quit. They broke down the “5 Mindset Stages” people go through to create a new lifestyle change.
But, it's super easy to get stuck in one of the stages...
The Five Mindset Stages to Creating New Lifestyle Change
A while ago I read something that absolutely blew my mind! It actually made me step back and rethink some of the things I’ve been taught.
Exactly how long does it take to create a habit?
It’s a question researchers have been trying to answer for years. We’ve heard everything from 3 weeks to 90 days to even longer!
But … what if that’s the WRONG QUESTION?
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