Don't put me in a box! Understanding personality types can help you understand yourself and those close to you.
Temperaments, doshas and personality types.
I’ve been talking a lot about relationships in the past few blog posts, probably because I’ve been traveling with my family for the last six and a half weeks. We are living in close quarters most of the time and we all have some fire to our personalities. So we don't always have an easy time of it.
I’ve found that knowing and understanding more about my general tendencies and the tendencies of those around me, helps me to be more patient and get along.
There are many different philosophies around personality types. I’m going to give a brief rundown of the three that I am most familiar with, and then go more into depth on each in the coming weeks. This post is going to be wordier than my others, but I think it’s helpful information.
Last week, I wrote about having to grow up a bit to get along in the relationship with my husband. When I asked my yoga teacher/guru for relationship advice, he asked me point blank if I even wanted to stay married, then followed with “did I want to be right or did I want peace.”
If you would prefer peace, here are a few simple tips for handling conflct. By the way, these work with any relationship. I often use these with my teenage daughter.
Life isn’t always easy with a teenager in the house (or campervan), but I try to take the long view. Forming a good relationship with her that will last into her adult years is more important than what food she eats or how many chores she does.
One of the goals of our long trip was to spend time together as a family. As the kids get older, it really has become difficult to spend quality family time with school, work, sports and other obligations pulling at us.
While we are definitely getting family time, and sometimes we are in the zone, all having a good time. Other times we aren't quite meshing. We might be tired, hungry, or have spent too much time in the car. That's when I really need to use strategies for overcoming conflict, because I can't "quit the trip," as my nine year old son said.
If you've decided you don't want to "quit the trip," give these three strategies a try.
Division of Labor
I bet the subject most couples argue over is division of labor, how household chores are divided up.
My husband and I generally have a good system. For example, I do the shopping and cooking and he does the kitchen clean up. It might not seem completely fair, but I like to cook and I can make a pretty good mess.
We've had to change things up now that we’re traveling for a couple of months in a camper van.
Now it makes sense for me to do the cooking and cleaning, while he packs up the camper van. We’re just in each other’s way, if we try to help each other. It took us a little while to figure it out. I’m sure it will shift as we go.
It wasn't always so smooth...
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